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Thursday, September 19, 2019

Save the Date! December Workshop: Envisioning Eldership

SAVE THE DATE! Dec 7th, 2019
The Existential-Humanistic Institute Presents:
Envisioning Eldership

Embracing the Long View of Life and Living - An Existential, Process-Oriented Approach
A Day-Long Workshop Developed & Facilitated by EHI Core Instructor:
Dr. Nader Shabahangi, MFT, RCFE
Date: Saturday, Dec 7th, 2019
Time: Day-Long; Start/End TBA
Location: SF Bay Area – exact location TBD
Registration: To Open in October
Cost: $160.00 Early-bird/$175.00 regular fee;
Student and/or Elder: $140.00 Early-bird/$155.00 regular fee
Who For? We invite both lay persons and therapists alike to join us! Interested in an Existential-Humanistic approach to aging and eldership? Join us for this day long workshop where we explore Eldership using a Processwork Approach.
Limited Spaces Available
Save the date to join Nader and EHI for this day of dynamic engagement. 
This workshop outlines an attitude towards life that embraces our collected years of life experience and expresses a deep appreciation for its richness and complexity. An attitude that elevates us above the beleaguered worlds of "good and bad" and "likes and dislikes" to welcome our world and the people inside it just as we are. It introduces us to Eldership as a way of being and the practice of living life.
More than ever, we crave a new definition of aging that borrows from the great thinkers, artists, philosophers and wisdom traditions throughout history. Blending existential, process-oriented psychotherapeutic insights and centuries of philosophical wisdom with modern pragmatism learned from being a CEO of eldercare communities in the San Francisco Bay Area for over a quarter of a century, this workshop seeks a thoughtful map on aging, not a "To Do" list that illuminates yet another reason to fail.
Eldership isn't a state, but a process. It's not something to be achieved, but practiced. We don't educate others how to be elders, but instead open the space for their own unique journey.

Nader Shabahangi, PhD, RCFE

Nader R. Shabahangi, Ph.D., RCFE, received his doctorate from Stanford University and is a licensed psychotherapist. His multicultural background has made him an advocate for different marginalized groups of society throughout his adult life. In the 1980's he worked with abused children and teenagers and led anticipatory bereavement groups for Coming Home Hospice. In 1992 he founded the non-profit organization Pacific Institute with the purpose of training psychotherapists in a multicultural, humanistic approach to counseling and to provide affordable therapy services to the many diverse groups living in San Francisco.
In 1994, noticing the often inhumane treatment of the elderly living in institutions, he started to develop an innovative Gerontological Wellness Program in order to provide emotional support and mental health care services for the elderly. In 1997, together with his two brothers, Nader opened a residential care home for the elderly in San Francisco called Hayes Valley Care, where he could, along with the Pacific Institute Internship team, implement the Gerontological Wellness Program.

Sunday, September 1, 2019

Oct 5th Workshop: Dancing with Dragons - An E-H Approach to Couples Therapy

EHI Fall Workshop

[this post was updated to include Continuing Education info]

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Continuing Education Available*

The Existential-Humanistic Institute Presents:

Dancing with Dragons

Working with Couples' Core Wounds & the Tempering of Relationship - An Existential-Humanistic Approach to Couples Therapy

Developed & Facilitated by EHI Affiliate Instructors: Christine Armstrong, MFT & Louis Dangles, MFT
Date: Saturday, October 5, 2019
Time: 9:15am – 4:45pm
Location: Heart Source Center at 1600 Shattuck Avenue, Suite 125, Berkeley, CA 94702 
Cost: Regular Fee - $175.00 after Aug 30th
Student and/or Elder - $155.00 after August 30th
Ticket Update: 8 spaces available as of Sept 19th. Due to the nature of the programming a limited number of tickets are available for this workshop.
Ticket Refund Policy: Full refund minus a $15 admin fee if withdrawn by September 4th; a 50% refund if withdrawn by September 20th. No refund available after September 20th, 2019.
*Continuing Education:
APA Division 32, Society for Humanistic Psychology is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. APA Division 32, Society for Humanistic Psychology maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
The fees above do not include cost for CEs. Anticipated CE Fee: appx $30. Participation info is emailed to you.
Accessibility: It is the policy of EHI to make every reasonable effort to provide qualified attendees with disabilities with the opportunity to take full advantage of its programs and events.

Contact us to discuss learning arrangements with our team. Email Michelle and Troy at or call Michelle at 415-689-1475.

Join Us on October 5th!

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Join Christine & Louis, EHI, and existential therapists for this experiential workshop and day of dynamic engagement. 
This workshop is intended for clinicians who are interested in the dynamic, challenging territory of couples' therapy. Along with helping clinicians more effectively navigate that territory, the workshop will also offer insights into our own journeys of intimacy. We begin with the human dilemma that we cannot open to love without opening to where we have been wounded in love. We all have dragons: their job is to protect the gold; in the most fundamental sense, the continued existence of our essential self.
We will explore the following themes utilizing didactic elements and case material reinforced by experiential exercises and demonstrations:

  • The necessity that intimate partners must encounter each other’s core wounds.
  • The inevitability of the experience of betrayal and the archetypal relationship between, trust, betrayal, and forgiveness.
  • Collaborative approaches to the essential task of repair.
  • Intimacy as a container for deep healing and ground for individuation.
  • The morning sessions will focus on the relationship between core wounds and the dragons that guard them. Then we will examine examples of the dynamic dance that evolves between partners. The afternoon sessions will focus on the dynamics of trust, betrayal, and forgiveness. Themes will include the five dangers of betrayal and the four tasks of repair. We will offer reflections on the role of responsibility, accountability, and sovereignty in forging intimacy.

At the end of the workshop participants will be able to:

  1. Identify at least one (1) way that core wounds shape a person’s self-protective behavioral style (‘Dragon’).
  2. Demonstrate at least one (1) way to “Read between the lines”- recognize how present complaints can point to formative core wounds.
  3. Name at least one (1) way that self-protective behavior patterns create a mutually reinforcing self-fulfilling prophecy (‘Dance’).
  4. Explain at least one (1) way how the ‘dance’ can point to healing opportunities between partners.
  5. Demonstrate at least two (2) interventions to shift the self-fulfilling adversarial cycle to a collaborative conversation between partners.
  6. Identify at least one (1) way how their personal dragon informs their counter-transference responses to clients.
  7. Demonstrate at least one (1) way to identify how present time interactions with intimate partners trigger core wounds.
  8. List the five (5) dangers of betrayal.
  9. State the four (4) tasks of repair.
  10. Identify at least one (1) way how the dangers of betrayal block repair (moving beyond victim-perpetrator polarity).
  11. Specify at least one (1) way how shame can interfere with the experience of appropriate regret/remorse.
  12. Describe at least two (2) interventions that support the emotional risks required for effective repair.
Christine Armstrong & Louis Dangles

Christine Armstrong, MFT & Louis Dangles, MFT

Christine Armstrong, MFT (CA Lic #7529)
Christine established her private practice in 1976. Her work focuses on depth psychotherapy and she combines an Existential-Humanistic approach with a psychodynamic perspective. She and her husband of 35 years, Lou Dangles, have been doing couples and group work together for the past 20 years. She has trained extensively with Dr. Jim Bugental and Dr. Irv Yalom. More recently her training has included Ariadne Beck’s “group-as-a-whole” model with Jim Fishman. She is currently in private practice in San Anselmo, where she works with couples, individuals, and groups.

Louis Dangles, MFT (CA Lic #8207)
Louis established his private practice in 1976. His work focuses on depth psychotherapy and he combines an Existential-Humanistic approach with archetypal and psychodynamic perspectives. He has trained extensively with Dr. Jim Bugental and Dr. Irv Yalom. More recently his training has included Dr. Ariadne Beck’s “group- as-a-whole” model with Jim Fishman. He is currently in private practice in San Anselmo, where he works with couples, individuals, and groups.

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