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Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Upcoming Events | Elders Academy: Learning How To Be an Elder at Any Age

Eldership Education for the Second Half of Life
 by Nader Shabahangi, AgeSong Founder and CEO


Elders Academy Sessions to be held at AgeSong San Francisco
AgeSong Elders Academy
Exploring the Definition of
Eldership and Implementing
Personal Eldership Practice
Exploring the definition of eldership, cultural views of eldership in history, eldership in the media, principles and practices of eldership, and implementing a personal eldership practice.


Elders Academy prepares us through education for the second half of life. Whereas societies have found ways to initiate us for the demands of our first half of life through educating us for adulthood and middle adulthood, we are often less prepared to face the second half of life. Here concepts such as retirement and golden years present a limited idea of the potential contained in our second half. Elders Academy re-establishes a truly important role which has been lost in the last few centuries of our industrialization: the role of the elder.

The role of the elder was once the most revered role in our human communities. Eldership as a role and position within a human community started within the tribal traditions. There we find an emphasis on elders as guides and leaders. This indicates that they are experienced and wise and are fit to lead the tribe and teach the young. Elders also resolve social concerns and are expected to make final decisions about the direction communities will take on the many social and individual issues we humans must face.

Today, however, elders are scarcely available to guide and initiate the young and lead our communities to make wise decisions. There is an absence of elders also because the old have not been given the skills and ability to be elders. Moreover, in the last few centuries, the status of the elderly as respected members of their societies has declined. Paralleling this decline has been a diminution of the elders’ role in their respective communities.

We need to train elders if we want to help individuals living in our communities and societies with the important tasks of supporting and guiding the younger in age and experience. For being older does not make an elder. As the history of eldership shows clearly, the qualities attributed to being an elder are quite universal. These traits must be acquired through much training, learning and practice. If we recall, for example, how monks in the various spiritual traditions are initiated over many years into becoming a respected member of their communities, then we have a glimpse of what it will take for an older person to grow into becoming an elder.

Michael Meade emphasizes this point as follows:
“Elders, by tribal imagination, and by more recent definition, are those who have learned from their own lives, those who have extracted a knowledge of themselves and the world from their own lives. We know that a person can age and still be very infantile. This happens if a person doesn’t open and understand the nature of his or her own life and the kind of surprising spirit that inhabits him or her.”

However, where do we learn anymore how to ‘extract knowledge’ from ourselves and the world? What places are left where those of us interested in eldership can learn? Where do we turn to allow our elder within to grow out of us?

Elders Academy is this place within which we can learn to become elders at any age. It is a place where the values that often arrive with age are also seen as an alternative to living a life of meaning and depth. As such, eldership provides a different approach to the way our young and middle adults understand their lives, what they deem to be their values. Our second half of life, rather than being a burden or a period of decline, is understood as the most important part of our life for which the first half was but preparation.

It is our elders, their life experience, skill, knowledge and wisdom that will help usher in a new era of understanding how we can live in harmony with planet and people. And it is our elders that will lead the way to teach us younger in age how we can reach a sustainable way of life, both in terms of matter and spirit.

Upcoming Elders Academy Events:

May 17, 2013 | 4:00 pm - 6:00pm
ELDERS ACADEMY
AgeSong Cafe
602 Hayes Street (corner of Hayes and Laguna)
San Francisco, CA
Topic: Learn about AgeSong’s Elders Academy Certificate Training Program, including Experience in the AgeSong Communities
RSVP: Marlena del Hierro, 415.318.8672 E-Mail: marlena@agesong.com

June 21, 2013 | 4:00 pm - 6:00pm
ELDERS ACADEMY
AgeSong Cafe
602 Hayes Street (corner of Hayes and Laguna)
San Francisco, CA
Session topic: That Old Song and Dance
Featuring Deborah Bloch, PhD, author of That Old Song and Dance
Read more about Deborah Bloch and book here in AgeSongToday article. RSVP: Marlena del Hierro, 415.318.8672 E-Mail: marlena@agesong.com

July 19, 2013 | 4:00 pm - 6:00pm
ELDERS ACADEMY
AgeSong Cafe
602 Hayes Street (corner of Hayes and Laguna)
San Francisco, CA
Session topic: Food for Thought
Presented by Nader Shabahangi
RSVP: Marlena del Hierro, 415.318.8672 E-Mail: marlena@agesong.com

Click here to view more Upcoming Events at AgeSong

[Reprinted with permission from AgeSongToday | January 25, 2013, Elders Academy: Learning How To Be an Elder at Any Age]

Friday, May 10, 2013

Featured Book | Conversations with Ed
Waiting for Forgetfulness: Why are we so Afraid of Alzheimer's Disease

Book Cover for Conversations with Ed - Waiting for Forgetfulness: Why are we so Afraid of Alzheimer's Disease

Conversations with Ed
Waiting for Forgetfulness: Why are we so Afraid of Alzheimer's Disease

by Ed Voris, Nader Shabahangi, and Patrick Fox, in collaboration with Sharon Mercer
Elders Academy Press, 2009

How can we not be afraid of Alzheimer's Disease? How can we not dread aging? by posing these questions we are invited alternate ways of seeing Alzheimer's disease as well as aging. In so doing we do not want to minimize the suffering that people may experience watching a loved one become forgetful. Nor do we want to minimize that becoming forgetful and growing old can be pain processes. Rather, Conversations with Ed wants to create a positive cultural space for people with dementia, for those who accompany them on their journey and for those who fear being afflicted with it.

Read more aboutConversations with Ed and the authors Ed Voris, Nader Shabahangi, and Patrick Fox in this article, "Consensus Smiles" by Dr. Sally Gelardin posted in the "We are AgeSong" May 2013 AgeSong Communities Newsletter.[PDF] In this featured article Dr. Gelardin talks about Conversations With Ed, her meeting Ed Voris, and some backstory about how Ed Voris and Nadar Shabahangi met and how Conversations with Ed evolved. Dr Sally Gelardin is current Enrichment Director at AgeSong Elder & Assisted Living Communities and Editor of AgeSongToday.com

Conversations With Ed and all Elders Academy Press books are currently available 4 for the price of 3 during our Celebrate Eldership!book offer.

This book and all Elders Academy Press books are currently available 4 for the price of 3 during our Celebrate Eldership! book offer.

Buy 3 and get 4th book FREE!

Enter this coupon code: ELDERSHIP2013 during checkout at the Pacific Institute online store or place your order by fax 415-431-1012 or by phone 415-861-3455. Outside of the United States? please phone 001-415-861-3455 ext. 3 or fax 001-415-431-1012 or email info@pacificinstitute.org.

Conversations With Ed, hardcover edition $19.95*, plus shipping & handling

Conversations With Ed, softcover edition $13.95*, plus shipping & handling
*During the Celebrate Eldership! book offer the price is 25% off if purchased with 3 other books from Elders Academy Press!

Related posts:

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Featured Book: Doing Sixty and Seventy by Gloria Steinem

Featured Book: AgeSong: Meditations for Our Later Years by Elizabeth Bugental, PhD

Featured Book: Encounters of the Real Kind edited by Nader R Shabahangi, PhD

Celebrate Eldership! with Elders Academy Press Book Offer: Buy 3 get 4th book free

[Reprinted with permission from AgeSongToday 04/19/2013 by agesong]

Bob Edelstein Interview Series Pt 5: Existential Humanistic Approach to Couples Therapy

Bob Edelstein Discusses E-H Psychotherapy Part 5 of 5

Join Bob Edelstein as he addresses the "Existential Humanistic Approach to Couples Therapy", in this final part of this E-H Psychotherapy interview series.

In this episode Bob answers the following questions: What is the meaning behind the dichotomy of isolation versus relationship and how can this affect a couple's relationship? In couples therapy of this kind, do you place a heavier stress on assessing the two people as a couple or as individuals? Why? How and why do you as the therapist act as a role model for the couple in therapy? What is meant by an existential theme and what is its importance regarding couples therapy?

Part 5: Existential Humanistic Approach to Couples Therapy (6:45) Askimo TV

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Bob Edelstein Interview Series: The Role of the Therapist in Existential Humanistic Psychotherapy, Part 2 in a 5 part Series on Existential-Humanistic Pyschotherapy.

Bob Edelstein Interview Series: Existential-Humanistic Psychotherapy, Part 1 in a 5 part Series on Existential-Humanistic Pyschotherapy.



Bob Edelstein, L.M.F.T., M.F.T., is an Existential-Humanistic psychotherapist based in Portland, Oregon. In addition to being a therapist for over 36 years, he also provides consultation, supervision, and training for professionals, including a one-day workshop entitled Deepen Your Therapeutic Work Using an Existential-Humanistic Perspective. Bob is a founding member of the Existential-Humanistic Northwest Professional Organization and the Association for Humanistic Psychology - Oregon Community. He is a board member of the San Francisco based Existential-Humanistic Institute. Read more from Bob on his blog, Authentic Engagement.

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Book Release & Signing Celebration | The Polarized Mind by Kirk Schneider

Save the Date!
May 22nd, 2013 6:00pm - 8:00pm Saybrook University Campus

Book Cover for The Polarized Mind by Kirk Schneider, Phd

Saybrook University and the University Professors Press invite you to a Book Release and Signing Celebration for The Polarized Mind: Why It’s Killing Us and What We Can Do About It by Kirk Schneider, PhD on Wednesday, May 22, from 6:00 to 8:00 PM at Saybrook University’s Campus at 747 First Street, 3rd Floor, in San Francisco, CA. Please join us to celebrate the publication of this important new book.

 

RSVP with Louis Hoffman at University Professors Press.

More information on the event is available at Saybrook University’s events page.





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Monday, May 6, 2013

Notes on Humanistic Psychology Today by Candice Hershman, M.A., LMFT

At APA Division 32: Society for Humanistic Psychology Annual Conference 2013

Highlight at DIV32 2013
 Orah Krug's interview with
  Irv Yalom 

I have come to believe that the success and fruition of every movement is more reliant on a sense of community than initially recognized. However, in a world of increasing technological advancement and globalization, our sense of community has shifted. The positive aspect of this is more rapid connection & sharing of ideas, as well as awareness of our distant & even overseas brothers & sisters. The negative aspect is disembodied contact & loss of the kind of power & agency derived from a close knit, grass-roots community.

Although my love of Existential-Humanistic Psychology is definitely grounded in my genuine belief in the guiding principles (mainly, that the direct experience of people and relationship is more valuable than paradigms of experience and relationships), it is duly my direct experience of the people in the EH Community that has brought vitality to my interests. I somehow imagine that if not for the mentorship and proximal peer learning, Existential Humanistic Psychology would add up to a mere collection of books on my shelf, at best resulting in greater insight. It was the actual people - their energy, vibrancy, integrity, and accessibility that made me want to make a career and life for myself in Existential Humanistic Psychology. Attending the Society for Humanistic Psychology Annual Conference in Santa Barbara amplified that sense of passion for me.

Division 32 of APA, or rather, the Society for Humanistic Psychology has a pretty active Facebook community. I’ve been a member of the Division for about 7 years now, have heard about the conferences, and have made online connections with many of the Division’s members online. For years, I’ve never even met several of the members. I would watch friends of mine get very involved in the online community, and I would recoil a little bit at the thought of investing so much time in online academia.

Regardless, I attended the conference for the first time this year and met not only at least a half dozen people I’d only known online, but dozens of amazing people who I immediately felt strongly akin to. This was the same feeling I had ten years ago when I first became involved in the Learning Community meetings run by Art Warmoth and Pat Hansen at Sonoma State University. This was the warm, truly *person centered* atmosphere that made me feel at home. Most importantly, these were not dry academic personalities that waxed philosophical and wrapped every discussion up with a clinical analysis. These were people who connected beyond the stereotypical, dry and critical anhedonia that has usurped the true value of what it means to heal. Rather, this community is full of juicy, dynamic, expressive, and just damn fun people. These are people who don’t just talk about living. They live.

Additionally, our profession has recently lost many esteemed mentors such as Jim Bugental and Eugene Taylor. One of the most common fears I’ve heard from colleagues is that our breed is dying out. Who will carry the torch? Who will care about existential humanistic psychology? Indeed, we do have contemporary leaders like our own EHI board members, Orah Krug, Kirk Schneider, and Nader Shabahangi. Still, every time there is a loss, the concern about who will fill some very big shoes is amplified. For me, when I gather in a community of such hardy colleagues, my fear is quelled. I know that there are many fresh faces who not only have the brains, but the heart that is necessary to keep a community thriving. For instance, I was greatly impressed with the leadership of Div. 32 President, Dr. Louis Hoffman. He demonstrated the humility, sensitivity, and accessibility that is rare in esteemed positions. Another great example would be Div. 32 Secretary, Dr. Richard Bargdill, and his robust, authentic, and warm personal engagement with not only colleagues, but students just getting involved. This is the attitude that not only creates community involvement, but makes it sustainable. Without the qualities of these two leaders, movements tend to eat themselves alive.

The result of meeting these fabulous folks? The online community is terribly appealing now, being that all of these wonderful people who gathered in Santa Barbara are dispersed all over the country, from Pittsburgh, to Richmond, to Seattle, and so on. And we don’t just talk shop. I just had an online conversation with President Elect Brent Dean Robbins about whether or not a butterscotch flavored ice cream is in existence. He’s a brilliant guy, but I think that conversation has raised my esteem for him exponentially. I like real people who can shoot the breeze about ice cream.

I want to add that many of our own EHI board represented at the conference. Kirk Schneider & Orah Krug presented with Rob Stolorow (Justin Underwood represented David Elkins) on "The Renewal of Humanism in Psychotherapy: Strategies for Transforming Our Field." Kirk’s activist conviction; Orah’s heartfelt representation of the EH-Certification students & their growth as clinicians; Rob’s joining in with the intersubjective, &; Elkin’s representation of evidence based research & its reinforcement of relationship & context factors as key elements of therapeutic efficacy all illustrated different aspects of Humanistic values and the vital role they play in shaping good therapy.

I co-presented along with Louis Hoffman & Michael Moats "The Use of Poetry to Enhance Psychotherapy," covering theories and models of consciousness that support expansive use of language, as well as personal and clinical examples and experiential exercises for the audience. Kirk Schneider again presented Awe, Wisdom and Well-Being: Latest Findings. A grand finale of the conference was Orah Krug’s interview of Irvin Yalom.

In addition to our own board member’s presentations, there were incredible presentations from multicultural perspectives to ethics grounded in love to embodied psychology.

The content was cutting edge, and yet I still want to end on one very central note: It is the steadfast and joyous rhythm of the collective beating heart of Humanistic Psychology that stood out and reminded me of why I have always wanted to be an existential psychotherapist. I don’t just want to talk about living: I want to truly live among others who live and love each other well. I look forward to a continued partnership between EHI and the Society for Humanistic Psychology. Our cutting edge insights may be what bring us validity, but it is our team spirit that will sustain us as more than a group of professionals: we are kin of a movement that continues to grow.


Candice Hershman, M.A., LMFT is a EHI Board Member and current Doctoral student studying at Saybrook Graduate School. Candice currently sees individual and family clients privately in Sausalito, CA specializing in treatment of people with acute/chronic mental health challenges, adults and children who have experienced situational and developmental trauma, and adoption/foster care issues. Candice also provides in-home family therapy to people with small children. In addition, Candice provides mental health consultation to local preschools. Prior to entering the mental health profession, Candice worked for 15 years in Early Childhood Education as both a teacher, director of programs, and county mentor.

Friday, May 3, 2013

Featured Book | The Polarized Mind: Why It's Killing Us and What We Can Do About It by Kirk Schneider, PhD

Book Cover for The Polarized Mind by Kirk Schneider, Phd

The Polarized Mind: Why It's Killing Us and What We Can Do About It
by Kirk Schneider, PhD
University Professors Press, Spring 2013

What do a school shooter, a corporate swindler, and a bullheaded ideologue have in common? They all converge on what Dr. Kirk Schneider terms “the polarized mind.” The polarized mind, which is the fixation on one point of view to the utter exclusion of competing points of view, is killing us—personally, politically, and environmentally. Drawing from the standpoint of existential psychology, this book details the basis for the polarized mind, how it has ravaged leaders and their cultures throughout history (up to and including our own time), and steps we urgently need to take to address the problem. These steps combine contemporary insights with centuries of cross-cultural, awe-inspired wisdom.

Advance Praise for The Polarized Mind

"....one of the great reflections on humanity."
~ Alfried Langle, MD, President of the International Society for Logotherapy and Existential Analysis, Vienna, Austria
“The Polarized Mind is excellent. In my estimation it is a 21st century extension of Rollo May’s Cry for Myth. I mean this as the highest compliment.”
~ Sheldon Solomon, PhD, Social Psychologist, Skidmore College, co-founder of Terror Management Theory and co-author of In the Wake of 9/11
“Enormously important...[The Polarized Mind] will be of great appeal to students, trainees, practitioners, and academics...as well as to educated readers concerned about the perils of human life in the 21st century.”
~ Robert D. Stolorow, PhD, Author, World, Affectivity, Trauma: Heidegger and Post-Cartesian Psychoanalysis, Founding faculty member, Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis
"The Polarized Mind is not only very timely, it is also very moving."
~ Sonja Saltman, PhD, co-founder of the Saltman Center for Conflict Resolution at the University of Nevada at Las Vegas (UNLV) Boyd School of Law

The Polarized Mind:Why It's Killing Us and What We Can Do About It
Kirk Schneider, PhD
University Professors Press, Spring 2013
Price: 19.95
ISBN: 978-1-939686-00-8

For more information and to order visit University Professors Press or amazon.com.

Author Kirk J. Schneider, Ph.D., is a leading spokesperson for contemporary existential-humanistic psychology. Dr. Schneider is current editor of the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, vice-president of the Existential-Humanistic Institute (EHI), and adjunct faculty at Saybrook University, the California Institute of Integral Studies, and Teachers College, Columbia University. A Fellow of the American Psychological Association (APA), Dr. Schneider has published over 100 articles and chapters and has authored or edited ten books. Follow Dr. Schneider's blog Awakening to Awe on PyschologyToday.